Stephen Moyer Talks About Dating

October 2, 2009 by  

Stephen MoyerSure, Stephen Moyer is happily engaged to his True Blood leading lady, Anna Paquin but that didn’t stop him from participating in a cute little feature called “e-Flirting” in the British issue of Company Magazine.

Stephen was in London at the time of the interview on a beautiful, sunny day. He says he misses England when he is away and when he gets back in the summer, one of the first things he loves to do is run and jump in the pond at Hampstead Heath.

With all of the True Blood fanaticism, Stephen has become familiar with some of the wilder fans, who often want to bite him or be bitten by him or to have him autograph certain body parts…

He has even met a couple of people who named their dogs Sookie and requested him to go into his Bill Compton character to call their dogs over which he admits he finds quite weird.

When it comes to the dating world, Stephen says he’s useless:

“Dating in England is so different to dating in America. Either that or I’m really old-fashioned. I always thought that when you asked someone out, you were going out with them. Whereas, in America, you can be dating 20 other people. It doesn’t mean you’re seeing them until saliva changes hands.”

Stephen says that a woman’s natural scent is a big turn-on for him but what attracts him most is beneath the surface:

“I’ve always been interested in what’s behind the eyes, and gone for brains over anything. I don’t have a type but I like someone who’s smart and funny.”

As for what is a turn-off to him, Stephen doesn’t like materialism or the assumption that men should pay for everything.

When asked if he believes in love at first sight, Stephen replied that it has happened to him once. Love, for him, means feeling like it physically hurts when you’re separated from that person.

It’s hard to imagine this, but Stephen talks about how he used to be terrified of asking women out and wished it could always be like it was in school when your friends would act as a go-between for you. He started gaining some confidence when he finally worked up the courage to approach a girl, put a slip of paper in her hand with his phone number on it and told her she needed to call him, which she did (of course!). Though, he still found himself confused by things like the “three-day rule” for calling someone. Even now, he admits that he often says the wrong thing:

“The key is working out the right time for the right answer, because sometimes women want the truth but, believe me, I don’t get it right many times…”

Stephen also shares a funny story about his experience with naughty text messages:

“I once accidentally messaged one of my friends something meant for a girlfriend and it was incredibly inappropriate. It was a proposal of sorts, to go and do something in a park. It was rather filthy, so I’ve since got used to triple-checking before I send texts now.”

Soon, Stephen will be turning 40 and getting married and he won’t have to deal with all the silly things that happen in dating anymore. But he doesn’t seem to mind looking back on all the amusing experiences he had before settling down with Anna.  One final question that the interviewer asked which was quite cute after discussing the issues of dating was if Anna will “mind you flirting with us?” Stephen replied “I think flirting is very healthy, as long as your partner knows that’s all it is.”

SOURCE: Company Magazine via

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